21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
The Key: Submission (v. 21)
Submit – to voluntarily place yourself under
The key is mutual submission – we must place our rights under the rights of another person
James 4:1 Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members?
The Model: Christ and the Church (v. 22-32)
The wife (v. 22-24)
The role of the wife in marriage is to picture the role of the church in relationship to Christ – the wife is to submit to her husband
Submission has to do with roles in marriage, not inferiority
Galatians 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
Submission is honoring Christ – “… as to the Lord.” (v. 22)
The roles in marriage are God’s plan
The husband (v. 25-32)
The role of the husband is to picture the role of Christ in relationship to the church – the husband is to love his wife
The love is to be sacrificial (v. 25b)
The husband’s love should picture Christ’s sacrificial love for the church
The love is to purify the wife
The husband’s love should bring the wife closer to God
The love is to be caring
The husband should love his wife as he loves himself
The love is to be unbreakable
The marriage should be like glue or cement
Applied: Love and Respect (v. 33)
Husbands love your wives
Wives respect your husbands
“When Christian husbands and wives walk in the power of the Spirit, yield to His Word and control, and are mutually submissive, they are brought much happiness, their children are brought much blessing, and God is brought much honor.” John MacArthur